Do not let relationship consume your self identity.

Sometimes it happens that our life revolves around only one person. 
We keep on thinking about that one particular person whole day.
Our happiness starts and ends from him. 
We feel utmost happy and likeable when he is being around us. 
But when he does not give time to us, don't chit chat with us, we feel lost and unloved.
We bound us by negative thoughts 
We start distancing ourselves from everyone.

 But here I would like to say that don't let relationship consume your self identity.
Do not make him center of existence. 
He is just part of your life, not the whole life. 
You need to create your own life and identity.
Overall this life belongs to you. 

Whenever you face these type of situation where he is somewhat extra busy, he doesnot give attention to you,   then you need to create a life outside your relationship. 
Find the way and ideas which makes you happy.
The best way to handle the situation and respond who does not have time for you is to build a life you love, build a life what you want to live.


Find what inspires and energizes you, makes you happy .
Find life, be yourself,  take risks, be authentic, be a buzz women, be who really you what to be. 
Get emotionally attached to yourself. 
Give importance to yourself 
The happier and healthier you are, more you would be accompanied by positive aura. 
You would be more accountable towards him when he will realise the things and attract him by your posivitveness.
In nutshell, do not let your relationship consume your self identity.

Personal views by Kamakshi Johar

If learning to fly,,,, Have lesson from a butterfly

The incredible transformation of caterpillars into amazing butterflies is one of the marvelous process of nature. As the caterpillars forms a cocoon and then butterfly emerges from it.
Do you know it holds a valuable reminder from all of us?
Don't overthink when you are just an average performer, may be butterfly of yours is trying to emerge within from.

Let's understand this with a story.
once, A man was sitting in a garden when he saw the incredible sight of the cocoon with a tiny opening through which a butterfly was trying to emerge. He watched over an hour, as the butterfly struggles to come out of that tiny hole, bit by bit, flapping its wings, shaking, fighting and struggling to free its body. But after an hour of struggling, the poor insect was no making progress. So, the man decided to help the butterfly. He stood up and with gentle hands, he opened the hole in the cocoon just be wider to allow the butterfly to come out from the hole. Butterfly came out but with the shriveled  body. it looks weak and tender. The nan eagerly waited for the butterfly's wings to be opened up. But it did not happen. The butterfly stayed weak and unable to fly.
The man did not realize that in his attempt to help the butterfly, he even harmed it.
The struggle to become butterfly from the cocoon is a natural process which takes time and the butterfly has to struggle itself to become strong, large and to fly.

No struggle,,,,, No success. That's as true for butterfly as well it is for all of us.
Struggle and challenges makes us stronger, more capable than now. The next time when  you find yourself struggling and feel like giving up, Remember it may be nature's way of helping you to fly and soar to your true potential.
At time, you may find a dear friend or your boss or your true mentor who is deserting you in your hour of need. They are putting extra pressure on you. they are expecting high performance.Don't be too harsh on them. They may be doing it to help you. to make you learn to fly.

Remember: The greatest success does not come by sitting in comfort zone. You have to get out from the bed and have to chase your dreams.

Struggle is the only way to pursue your dreams.
To mark your performance high, you need to give 100% and then a little extra.

A short story by Tr. Kamakshi Johar